First when film #RUST had that shooting and the cinematographer’s death took front and center with Republicans piling on actor #alecbaldwin because of his liberal take on issues, I thought “this is just bullshit. Nothing will become of it. Rest in Power to the woman who died”. But This problem with BLANKS in Guns and having an ARMORIST on set has been long time coming imo.
Obviously I was not on set when Alec pointed the gun at Halyna and then pulled the trigger. He is saying he didn’t pull the trigger but then how did the bullet get out of the gun? Was Beetlejuice there to do the mischief? Why was a real bullet in the gun? The Amorist Gutierrez-Reed was in charge of that gun she and Baldwin are looking at #INVOLUNTARYMANSLAUGHTER – MAX of 18 MONTHS IN PRISON.
Now 3 other people are suing Baldwin for #PTSD because of the shooting. The highlighted word is where you can find the article. Frankly I find fault with the entire production team and unfortunately for Baldwin he is a producer on this film. He stands to benefit from it’s completion and release.
Baldwin is also the father of 7 and the grandfather of 1 by his daughter Ireland whose mom is #kimbasinger. Honestly, and I do not know him nor do I care to, he and his baby making machine he married are going to be in hot water if he goes to jail for 18 months. Even one month will kill Baldwin’s career. He will go the way of #tomsizemore working with has beens, never weres if he goes to jail. My advice to Alec – wear a condom.
TOM SIZEMORE was, for a very long time, one of my favorite character actors in Hollywood. I did know him as a person and it seems he was not a very good person from what I have read. Because of his drug use and alcoholism and many treks to rehab he is braindead. Really sad to read that article that his family is planning how to end his life. Even #robertdeniro tried to help this guy but he went right back to boozing and drugging so rehab did not help.
Hollywood can do one of 3 things to people-1)make you a star, 2) make you dead, 3)drive you back to your home state. I took #3 for the win because NOW Hollywood is coming back East in 2023 – to NJ with studios from #Netflix and #LIONSGATEcoming back east to do so.
I am not gonna lie this article made me cry. I sang and played guitar for my mom in hospice 10 hours before she passed away in April of 2001. It seems that I sent a lot of people on their journeys that night. I am forever grateful to have been a part of their last moments.
What Happens When You Die? Hospice Workers Share Conversations With Patients as They Near the End of Their Life
Sun, February 19, 2023 at 11:24 AM EST·8 min read
Hospice workers share some of their impactful conversations with patients.
Talking about mortality can definitely be a frightening subject. But for some people, like those who work in hospice, discussing what happens when you die may feel like a more natural conversation to have.
So, what does it feel like to be days from death? And what happens to you when you die? While some of these questions may never be answered, we spoke to several hospice care professionals across the U.S. to find out what they’ve learned from their patients in their final days as they prepared to make a transition from life to death.
“Very few people are afraid of death. They’re afraid of dying, the process leading to death,” says Travis Overbeck, National Director of Patient Experience for Seasons Hospice.
Of course, no one truly knows what comes next, but some patients have a very clear idea of what they believe should happen once they die, says Overbeck. Hospice workers like himself get to explore their patients’ belief systems and ask them what they’d like their death to look like.
For instance, in the Buddhist tradition, there’s an expectation of silence at the time of death, according to Overbeck, and there should not be any wailing or grieving at the individual’s bedside so they can make their way peacefully into the next life.
“I’ve seen so many patients at the time of death. Most often, there’s this sense of peace and calm, and it’s really beautiful,” Overbeck says. “That’s why I do what I do. It’s all about bringing that peace and comfort to our patients at end of life.”
Here are some of the most common themes that have emerged from end-of-life conversations with hospice workers.
“Would you mind praying for me?”
Overbeck, a chaplain who sees patients of all faiths and backgrounds but practices Christianity himself, remembers his final conversations with a Jewish patient in her last days of life. She said, “I know you’re Christian, and I know I’m Jewish, but would you mind praying for me?”
“What would you like me to pray for?” Overbeck replied.
“I pray that when I die, it will be peaceful, and I will be comforted,” was the patient’s request.
After some conversation, they prayed together and the two hit it off. When Overbeck returned to the hospital the next day, the patient’s friend found him in the hallway. She told Overbeck that the patient had become unresponsive—but before she stopped speaking, the patient asked her friend to have Overbeck pray for her again if he returned.
Overbeck entered the patient’s room and, knowing that hearing is typically the last sense to go, he reintroduced himself and said, “I’m going to go ahead and pray for you.” He prayed again for peace and a comfortable transition. And at the end of his prayers, suddenly the patient began to talk.
“I’m going on a journey to a place I’ve never been before,” she started, “and everybody is sparkling, and everybody is smiling at me.” The patient died about 45 minutes later.
“I don’t care what belief system you are or aren’t. At the end of the day, that’s real. That was her experience,” Overbeck says.
Bringing life closure
Much of Overbeck’s work is dedicated to tying up loose ends and bringing his patients’ life to closure, whether that’s reuniting family members that have become estranged or ensuring the patient’s legacy is preserved. “There’s a process in dying,” Overbeck says. “It’s the opportunities to say, ‘I love you,’ opportunities to say, ‘I forgive you,’ opportunities to ask for forgiveness, opportunities to say, ‘Goodbye.’”
Overbeck recalls another conversation with a patient who was the CEO of a very large, well-known company. “Travis, I had it all,” the CEO told Overbeck. “I had the vacation homes. I was able to send my kids to the finest schools. We traveled the world. But at some point, I lost my focus. I began to value my job and my money more than anything else.”
Along the way, it cost him not only his marriage but his relationship with his kids. In fact, the patient had a grandchild he’d never even meet. Overbeck asked the patient for permission to reach out to his family. A few phone calls later, they were flying into town to visit the hospital.
Overbeck helped facilitate conversations between the patient and his family members, and while he acknowledges it wasn’t easy, he was ultimately able to bring them a feeling of closure. Most importantly, the patient was able to meet his grandchild for the first time. The patient died later that day.
“The biggest realization that I’ve had is that we all have a finite amount of time—it’s about how you’re going to live with that time,” Overbeck says.
Carolyn Gartner, licensed clinical social worker with Visiting Nurse Service of New York Hospice and Palliative Care, began practicing meditation and studying Buddhism around the same time she started pursuing social work.
Working in hospice care, she’s found her patients hold a perspective of gratitude and acceptance that parallels what she’s been taught through her meditation practice. “I feel my older patients really understand the idea of letting go, and not letting small things bother you,” Gartner says. “We get so caught up in the day-to-day, and I see my older patients are a good role model for how those things pass.”
Gartner works with a diverse array of patients throughout Brooklyn, from celebrities to patients in public housing. Recently, she and a chaplain from VNSNY Hospice went to visit a Jamaican patient who loves Bob Marleymusic.
The patient’s daughter told them that her mother had experienced a severe explosion of pain the day before, so Gartner prepared to handle the situation sensitively, thinking perhaps the patient wouldn’t want to listen to music that day.
When they walked in the door, however, the patient was wearing a big smile on her face and said: “Okay, ladies, when are you starting the Bob Marley?’”
“I do think that this work, almost every day, reinforces to me: We are energy. We are light. There is a spirit,” Gartner says.
At end-of-life, people like to reflect on their life story, Gartner says. Patients will take out old photos and share stories of joy and pain all in one session. Having studied screenwriting as an undergrad at New York University, Gartner uses these same storytelling techniques with her patients to learn and listen to their stories.
“My observation is that people will often die the way they live, so it’s really interesting to see how people process what they’ve gone through,” she says.
While the patients may seem ready to accept what comes next, Gartner says it’s the families who often need help coming to terms with it. VNSNY Hospice assists with the pre-bereavement process for family caregivers so they can see beyond the grief and enjoy the time they have left with the patient.
“Patients almost always know what’s going on in their body. It’s the family who doesn’t,” she says.
Seeing lost loved ones
Over the years, Kalah Walker, patient care administrator for VITAS Healthcare, has seen numerous hospice cases where the patients will call out to their loved ones who’ve passed, as if they’re seeing someone that everyone else cannot.
Often, they look out into the distance, and the hospice worker knows it’s the name of a family member who’s no longer with us. Generally, this happens within the last days of their life, Walker notes.
“You know what they’re seeing when they’re looking off into the distance…,” she said. “Once they do that, they’re able to let go.”
Sometimes, the patients will ask their hospice worker if they can see the family member too. Walker says it’s important to be there in the moment with them, agree, and allow the moment to happen as the patient is experiencing it. “There’s a nurse who gets to be there to bring life into this world, and we get to stand there and hold a patient’s hands or their family’s hands as a life leaves this world,” she says.
Walker says the real work with end-of-life care comes after the patient passes, however. “Hospice isn’t just about death and dying. It’s about learning about what’s really important in life and keeping those memories alive,” Walker said.
VITAS’ staff supports families who’ve experienced loss with programs like gifting them memory bears as reminders of their loved ones or butterfly release ceremonies. At the butterfly release ceremony, families will open a package and release butterflies into the sky, giving them a chance to reflect and experience a feeling of release themselves. “I’ve seen the butterflies sit there in the moment. You notice they kind of hover around, and it’s almost as if that butterfly is the loved one,” Walker says.
Travis Overbeck, National Director of Patient Experience for Seasons Hospice
Carolyn Gartner, licensed clinical social worker with Visiting Nurse Service of New York Hospice and Palliative Care
Kalah Walker, patient care administrator for VITAS Healthcare
There are tons of MASS SHOOTINGS IN THE UNITED STATES but we are NOT united on its solution. Most of us think Assault Weapons should be banned and anyone owning one should go to war in a foreign country. What do you need that kind of weapon? To shoot DEER? Really? If you shoot a deer or a rabbit with an assault weapon you won’t have that animal to take home and eat because that kind of weapon destroys everything in its range.
When we had 13 colonies our 2nd Amendment meant something to form a militia to fight against our enemies – aka ENGLAND, FRANCE and any other country who wanted take over little America starting out.
Not so today. Today we have 50 states and several commonwealths and tons of guns in the hands of idiots. Some of them are teenagers. When a teen takes his guns or his parents guns (by teen SOMEONE UNDER AGE OF 18); and shoots a mass amount of people the parent should also be arrested. Most parents know exactly what is happening with their kids and if they don’t CALL CHILD SERVICES TO FIND OUT WHY THAT KID IS BEING NEGLECTED.
I choose not to have kids. I choose my own sexual preference at 10 years of age. I choose my preference of wearing casual clothing instead of business suits and where to work – creative places where I don’t have to dress up. I choose to have one dress in my closet that I wear to a funeral and any weddings I am invited to attend. THAT IS IT.
So if you have a child you commit to raising it not for just 18 years but for the rest of your life. Children are not like dogs or cats – they do not have an expiration date – They are yours forever. So you must do everything in your power to make them productive active proactive wonderful people. If you cannot supply them an education, money, clothing, LOVE & ATTENTIVENESS YOU HAVE ZERO RIGHT TO HAVE A CHILD.
Let’s take the UVALDE SCHOOL SHOOTER’S MOTHER seen below in her wonderful expression filled Mug Shot picture. Yes the apple does not fall far from the tree.
Adriana Martinez Reyes, 40, was arrested and charged on Jan. 4 with threatening to perform an act of violence as well as assault and battery on Wednesday after a domestic-violent incident, Oklahoma City Police said.
If you are a mother like this please give your kid up for adoption and get your tubes tied. You will save taxpayers (all of us) tons of $ to house, feed, clothe and take care of your crazy child who committed a mass murder crime. I thank the real hero (not the cowardly cops there) for shooting and killing her crazy son who shot 23 unarmed babies & teachers in their classrooms. Sincerely this woman is garbage along with the cops there who all got fired and RIGHTLY SO – they deserve to be hung by their balls but the executioner would be hard pressed to find them so jail will do.
Read the article highlighted on this woman’s name. Then read the comments below from the public – I think we are all on the same page here. Above picture shows the shooter, the chief coward and his cops standing around listening while little children were being murdered and begging for help. I don’t know how they live with themselves.
These are the small caskets for the Uvalde children who passed away in the mass murder at their school. I don’t know what you guys reading this think but for me…..I just can’t….I would have shot the cops and run into that school with my guns and killed that stupid kid. An unarmed mom had to climb the fence and she rescued her own kids and several of their friends.
Comments from the public
Christine1 minute ago Mental runs in the family
peanut9 minutes ago Well, now we know where he got it from – the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
Wolf13 minutes ago”The arrest marks the second time this month that police responded to the Oklahoma home where the mother of 18-year-old salvador ramos now resides.”the second time in 6 days?ReplyShare
Westside24 minutes ago
I guess the maga doesn’t fall far from the tree.
marko26 minutes ago Like son like mom
K’Sway26 minutes ago”….Forgive me, forgive my son. I know he had his reasons.” What ?? Reasons ????
John33 minutes ago Every time I hear “UVALDE” mentioned, my Celtic blood boils and I want to go out and disparage cops. That is the single most shameful thing in donut-eater history.
Just Me34 minutes ago The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
paul k.36 minutes ago STILL being held on $1K bail? LOL
smiles36 minutes ago He had his reasons, what mother would say that about someone who just shot children? Deeply disturbed family, son was probably neglected and verbally abused. Having a hateful angry mother did a lot of damage to his Psyche.
Industry3D36 minutes ago Great mug shot.
dea36 minutes ago whack that gene pool
Tinsy37 minutes ago So there’s the tree that the rotten apple fell from. Mystery solved.
TheDudeAbides37 minutes ago You have to pass a background check to adopt a dog from the ASPCA. Any I/d–i,o-t (see above) can have a child.
Marcelle37 minutes ago Apple didn’t fall off the tree.
Russ37 minutes ago Rotten apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
B40 minutes ago The gun doesn’t fall from the gun rack
littlemarebear43 minutes ago The taquito doesn’t fall far from the burrito stand jajajaja I’m so humor
Halestorm44 minutes ago Welp, violence runs in that family apparently. Like mother like son
RealAsiansDateAsians47 minutes ago Thumbs down coming, I welcome them but her son did something disgusting and got (rightfully) killed and her mother was shot in the head. Not sure Id be in the right headspace to argue with a boyfriend either
MarcP47 minutes ago Apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
barryc49 minutes ago“ he had his reasons “?? For slaughtering innocent schoolchildren?? Mother and son,. What a combination!
MIKI50 minutes ago The apple did not fall too far from the tree, cliche applies here
D_Girl50 minutes ago Well, I guess the apple don’t fall too far from the tree now does it?
RB51 minutes ago One thing that seems to be a consistent with these mass shooters: 1. They tend to be troubled young men below the age of 30. 2. Their parents also have a range of issues between simply being inattentive all the way to willfully indoctrinating them into terrorist ideologies and encouraging them to harm others.
Chris52 minutes ago Reminds me of my ex-wife
DemoSocial25 minutes ago Deport this woman to the darkest corners of SIberia. She deserves nothing more. She raised a monster because she, herself is a monster. She wants forgiveness from the children her son murdered yet she states “he had his reasons….for killing innocent children”? SHE is the reason he killed. SHE should also be in jail.
Nature1 hour ago Society has a huge problem with bad parents. I would say 75 percent of parents have no business taking care of a fish, let alone a child.
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YOU SEE THAT THERE ARE LOTS OF “APPLE” AND “TREES” REFERENCED HERE ….Yes we all agree….